In the business-world there are 2 types of people:
Chances are you’re in the #2 category, and wanting to be a #1 if you’re reading this. I’d be willing to bet you’ve been thinking about this for awhile. People seeking out such information on how to be an entrepreneur, how to transition to be an entrepreneur, what do entrepreneurs do, how do they succeed, etc., are rarely doing so on a whim or chance. It’s a desire and a yearning for quite awhile before most of us start info gathering. So you have a spark.
if you come from a family that has a history of nothing but being workers, be they blue or white collar, with no business owners, you’re going to have to step out and up mentally more than those who don’t – if you want your own business. This means to stop thinking like the beaten down slave employee that you are.
The unPromised Land
Is it possible to fit all the empty promises we’ve been told by our bosses, HR, employers, company board’s, etc. all into the endzone of Giants Stadium? The answer is a heaping, pile of ‘no.’
The endless meaningless meetings, long petty office politics, the lack of rewards, the unstable chairs with cheap cushions, small monitors and dusty cubicles, the annual promises of stock options worth pennies and commitment to inadequate health insurance … after 10 years of this, well, it was enough mentally.
It’s difficult to explain the contempt that I had developed. 10 years of work, belief, and maleable resumes, was enough before the veil of contempt was uncovered. My motivation to be my own man was as much a positive one (my own clients, my own hours, ‘don’t tell me what to do’) as a negative one (quitting corporate America and telling them to stick-it). And there’s nothing wrong with that.
For most of you, you gotta get Mad and use it to be motivated. 99% of all employees are too scared to get off their behind and work through the daily work and commitment of being an entrepreneur, when you already have a fulltime job, school, kids, etc. But you have to find a long term commitment. And one way to do that, is get mad you … ! (Glengarry anyone?)
What I’m trying to tell you is you need a hot heavy fire inside your belly to make it work. Trust me on this. Most people don’t have that fire and wont make it. You must have a furnace of stoked burning coals to power the perseverance you will need. You will literally need years worth of it to make it on through to the other side, you see, it’s life or death.
The Loss of Security, The Gain of Dignity
Do you really feel secure in your job? Do you really? If you do, you might be on quaaludes. It’s just not the money too you know. It’s the grind, the feeling of purpose of the structure you’re in. Most of you don’t realize it but you will when you leave. It happened to me.
That first weekend you quit your job is great… you don’t have to answer to anyone Monday morning. But Monday morning you realize you don’t have a paycheck either. I’m not going to lie, especially if you have kids, it can be real scary with thoughts of ‘what did I do?’ But again the one undeniable constant of an entrepreneur who makes it is perseverance. Perseverance in thought and action. If you persevere, over time, the loss of that alleged security, and the realism of a steady paycheck, are nothing to what you get for its loss.
But with the loss of security, both real and imagined, comes the gain of dignity.
definition: nobility or elevation of character and self; worthiness: dignity of sentiments. elevated rank, office, station, etc. having gained self-worth.
Dignity is a self-worth and self-determination of self, having to be able to stake your claim as a man or woman and define and reveal your own journey and destination. You can only obtain such a profound level of being by your own actions, never by a construct, belief or system of others. Step back and think about it.
I challenge you to seek your dignity. This plus your own children, your own flesh and blood, are the greatest realizations of your life.